Reason #14 Why I Love New York: Stories on Broadway!

This shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone – Broadway plays are universally acclaimed, but it has certainly been an eye-opener for how intricate a show could possibly be. The colors, the music, all the gorgeous set changes, the sweeping emotions – it’s all mesmerizing. I’ve watched classics like The Phantom of the Opera. I’ve watched the grittier ones like A Bronx Tale, and Chicago. I’ve watched laugh-out-loud shows like Mamma Mia and Kinky Boots, and dreamier shows like An American in Paris, and Once, the musical.

If you have ever met me, you know that I LOVE stories. I have been a bookworm since I can remember. I was reading before my parents realized I could, around the age of 4. And it never went away – I am constantly seeking out more stories all day, every day. My day begins with a book along with my morning coffee. I switch over to real-life stories on podcasts while I’m working in lab (after  five years of research, I’m fully capable of doing most benchwork on autopilot, once I’ve thought out my experiments). I then segue into binge-watching dramatic TV shows (especially ones with more than 5 seasons. Stories that go on and on!) at dinnertime, and then back to reading in bed before I fall asleep.

A lot of my favorite stories are fiction – because I like to lose myself into something bigger and better, something different and more fantastical. Something grand, with a flourish of dramatic emotions and uncontrollable passion.

However, stories based are reality are often equally strange and compelling. While my preferred format for non-fiction stories is hardly ever in the form of books, I do thoroughly enjoy listening to people narrate their tales, in the way of loud impassioned conversations during lunch in the cafeteria or while catching up over coffee. Some people have the most exciting content, because they live pretty exciting lives, and then there are others whose narration is so descriptive that they make the most mundane events sound fascinating. I’m constantly trying to learn both – to live my life in a way that ensures getting the most entertaining material, but also to pick up good narration skills.

As an extension of my love for stories, I also (obviously) enjoy thinking of my own life as a story. To see myself as a protagonist on my own thrilling journey! See, I moved to NYC in my early 20s, reminiscent of many leading ladies of classic romantic comedies. I came here in search of adventure, and starting a new phase of my life, and what a story it has been! There have been plot twists and cliff hangers, passion and intrigue, butterflies and broken hearts, and lessons I am still learning. There have been several protagonists, arch enemies, supporting characters, and many many plot arcs, such as – the stressed and overworked PhD student. The immigrant struggling to find her footing in a whole new culture. The building of a new support system from scratch, and yes, the eternal quest of the romantic sort. Many plot lines, intricately intertwined – and yet, underlying it all has been another story connecting them all, the love story between New York City and me.

I used to think I already had enough stories available to me, in the form of books and conversations and movies and podcasts – however, moving to NYC has completely widened the format of stories that are available to me: wonderful, tragic, soul-crushing, heart-wrenching stories depicted in the form of tragic Italian operas, gorgeously stunning ballet performances depicting lovely stories like A Midsummer Night’s Dream, spur-of-the-moment improvisation shows – but my favorite mode by far has been via Broadway shows.

This shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone – Broadway plays are universally acclaimed, but it has certainly been an eye-opener for how intricate a show could possibly be. The colors, the music, all the gorgeous set changes, the sweeping emotions – it’s all mesmerizing. I’ve watched classics like The Phantom of the Opera. I’ve watched the grittier ones like A Bronx Tale, and Chicago. I’ve watched laugh-out-loud shows like Mamma Mia and Kinky Boots, and dreamier shows like An American in Paris, and Once, the musical (side note: there’s no point in going for a Broadway show that isn’t a musical). By far, my favorite shows have involved Disney or happy ever afters, which again, should come as no surprise whatsoever. Disney defined my childhood, and I am very used to seeing talking animals as plucky sidekicks, genies bursting out of lamps, and people breaking into song at the drop of the hat (I would like to claim Bollywood to be an influence too, but I was one of those rare Indians who weren’t exposed to Bollywood till the ripe age of 20) – it is safe to say that I’m very comfortable with songs for every occasion. Come to think of of it, this might be what led to my propensity to designate a song for every mood (I mean, everyone does that, right? Right?) Broadway shows are a thrilling experience: the special effects! The dazzle! The glittery costumes, the dance numbers, and just the sheer energy on the stage and the audience!

So thank you, New York. Thank you for Broadway. Thank you for the magic. And for the reminder that incredible stories are always just a subway ride away!

Unapologetically pink!

Historical romances with happy endings, 

Princesses, ballrooms, and dukes condescending, 

Movies from Disney, books with covers pink, 

These are a few of my favorite things!

There, I said it. I have an ever-growing romance with love stories, a romance which I’m rather coy about, a romance which I suspect is too superfluous for me, a romance whose extent I try to keep under wraps – and treat as a guilty pleasure.

It all started when I turned four and firmly toppled in love with Disney movies. I figure one is expected to leave behind the wide-eyed idealism and belief in the power of Twue Wuv after a certain stage (moody and misunderstood teenage seems about the right stage for that). While I like to think I’m a little more worldly-wise and cynical now, I can’t deny that a big part of me still lives in the world of make-believe.

Eventually I started getting my daily dose of Happy Endings from romcoms and romance novels (there are only a finite number of Disney movies after all). But I’ve always felt that loving love isn’t something I should be too vocal about – when people ask me what I like, I usually prattle off a list of books and authors carefully chosen from other genres, but it takes a lot more guts to ‘fess up to my addiction to romance. My reasoning being that I’m a smart well-educated scientist being trained to deal with facts, logic, and rational thought, and I ought to be reading deeper and more meaningful literature about life, the universe, and everything – real people, problems, and issues at hand as compared to the romance genre, which has no great literary plot devices, is rather frivolous and ANY person can read and understand. Romance has become my ultimate secret indulgence.

But you know what? All that ends right now. The truth is: I don’t love romance in spite of being a rational scientist, but because I am a rational scientist. Because I’m supposed to deal with cold hard facts, believe only what is tangible and quantifiable, reason out conclusions based in logic and critical analysis … perhaps my profession is all the more reason to seek escape is frivolous romance with its unrealistic tales of impulsive (and frankly, implausible) courage, perfectly imperfect protagonists and guaranteed happy endings.

And yes, it’s not just the unrealistically wonderful parts which I love but also the seemingly insurmountable obstacles. Something bewildering, a feeling of hopelessness, of pain which keeps the female lead struggling for several chapters. While that makes me ache, it reminds me that problems exist, no matter what universe one inhabits. And even that is satisfying because I know that somehow the power of love will overcome it all. There’s a sense of reassurance that if right now your life is going through hardships, if it’s not making you laugh and smile and joyful to the brim … well, that’s because your story is still going on. These are your Seemingly Insurmountable Obstacles to overcome, and with time, effort, and determination borne of love or revenge or just a burning desire to prove oneself – you will reach your Happy Ending.

So yes, since this is the month of love, I figured I’d jump onto the bandwagon and proclaim mine: love stories, my love for love stories, and ultimately self-acceptance and love. To accept the person I am, accept the silly frivolous side of me along with the rational one, and to love myself, just the way I am. To stop worrying and over-analyzing the kind of person I ought to be, the kind of things I should be interested in – to cut myself some slack and live the way I want to, love the way I want to. I’m pretty certain self-acceptance is the right step on the path to my happily ever after. I’ll make sure of that.